WATER MODULE

PART III: SKILLS
LESSON 1: Primacy of Experience

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LESSON SUMMARY

Lesson 1: Skills - Primacy of Experience

In this lesson we explore how we allow the full direct experience underneath our story.  We will work with the capacity to go into the ‘primacy of experience’ instead of experiencing any story at all - diving into the immediacy of experience, and just feeling whatever there is to be felt, whether that is a sensation or an emotion.

 

LESSON VIDEOS

VIDEO 1

Video 1 - Primacy of Experience

In this video we will practice going directly into the immediacy of experience, allowing our experience to be felt directly without worrying about the story or the thoughts.  This will allow us to process emotions very quickly without story and without being separate from it.. 

 

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LESSON VIDEOS

Video 1 - Primacy of Experience

In this video we will practice going directly into the immediacy of experience, allowing our experience to be felt directly without worrying about the story or the thoughts.  This will allow us to process emotions very quickly without story and without being separate from it.

 

Primacy of Experience Audio

 

 

LESSON CONTENT

Primacy of Experience

Mental processes, that create story, are part of the analytical left brain.  Using our direct felt experience allows us to connect right brain to right brain.  This allows us to start “bottom-up” - through the somatic experience (body) and limbic system (emotions), rather than just via our frontal cortex (thoughts).   Awareness can directly find the felt experience which is more direct than abstract thinking.

 

“An important skill for us to develop is our capacity to dive into the immediacy of experience - literally skipping the story in order to have a direct experience where we directly feel our emotions, sensations, and energy that is arising now."

 

When we are in awareness we can directly feel our emotions, our sensations, the energy and what is arising moment by moment.  The body is not a lower or less than the rest of our being.  It is a field of enlightenment of vast wisdom.  

 

 

The quality of our inner being

Our human experience before it is processed is objective before it is subjective and covered over by projection. It is infinite and has no boundaries. Love is its nature. While our outer being might be acting egocentric, ambitious, and aggressive, our inner being, who we actually are, is actually a field of opened and awakened love.

We can work with the capacity to go into the primacy of experience instead of experiencing any story at all - diving into the immediacy of experience, and just feeling whatever there is to be felt, whether that is a sensation or an emotion. So we are literally skipping the story in order to have a direct experience. Having awareness just on what experience directly is. This is a very important skill - the ability to not listen to story and go and drop direct into the immediacy, into direct experience.

 

 

Our natural capacity to process experience

We are biologically wired for connection and a need to belong.  When feelings arise, there's a response happening in the system, beyond words that needs to process.  When it processes fully we can regulate and see things in a different way.   This is one of the things that many of us lost when people weren't responsive in those moments of pain.  

If you look at a child, they're in that immediacy. They haven't lost it.  Think of a child you know when they get hurt. What happens?  They're in this natural capacity to directly experience what they're experiencing uninhibitedly and that deep pain that they felt will rise, process and flow away.

 

 

What do we need to process our experience?

  1. We need to be able to feel the feelings that occurred directly. To be in direct, uninhibited sensation with the experience.
  2. We need to have something that is loving and present to help support our processing of that experience.
  3. We need someone to help us unhook from the limited belief that got associated with this pain.

For example, men get a message that they shouldn't cry. Don't act like a girl. There are a lot of pressures put on people to not have that level of emotion for that natural reaction, or that natural capacity of the body to process itself. 

 

 

The immediacy of our direct experience

How can we further allow the full direct experience underneath our story?  What is needed to drop into the felt experience of this moment and allow what's here to be felt?  

What is needed is awareness that is absolutely present, open, not resisting, allowing, and the experience to be fully, directly experienced without thoughts in the way.

You can practice going directly into the immediacy of experience, allowing it to be felt directly without worrying about the story or the thoughts.  This will allow you to process emotions very quickly and be directly the experience without story, without being separate from it so that it moves through like a wave. 

We can learn to bring in the intelligence of awareness and directly allow the immediacy of experience without inhibition.  In Luminous we are wanting to develop two abilities...

 

 

Process your feelings first so your thinking can change
One of the important teachings that came from the Co-Counseling community is, they used to say that you couldn't have rational thinking when you were caught in emotions,  and their point was that you should first process your emotion and then your thinking will change.  Before you try to think about something or resolve something, first, really deeply feel whatever's here. Learn to allow that natural discharge. Which is what kids do without thinking and then what you'll notice is suddenly what you think about it changes. You'll have different thoughts.

If you notice you’re having any sort of negative thinking or cycling in your thoughts, you can do this process of just completely experiencing without story what it is you are feeling. Move that emotion, that energy, until it's more clear and then notice what my story is.

 

Being with the immediacy of numbness

Men often have more injury where they weren't allowed to feel so that often when someone goes to notice what they feel, they don't know, they can't emote and so what you can do is first notice ‘I feel numb’ and that's being with the immediacy of that experience when their emotional system went into pain, people didn't respond. It tends to go into a shutdown response. So you can be with ‘I feel numb. I can't feel anything. There's no feeling here.’ 

 

 

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