WATER MODULE

PART III: SKILLS
LESSON 5: Being With Our Feelings And What Lies Beneath

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LESSON SUMMARY

Lesson 5: Skills - Being With Our Feelings And What Lies Beneath 

In this lesson we practice directly feeling our emotions and allowing them to flow freely without inhibition, without agenda, without trying to figure them out or analyze them.   We learn a practice to dive deep below the surface of the waters bringing a loving and honoring presence to everything that arises.. 

 

 

LESSON VIDEOS

VIDEO 1

Video 1 - Skills Lab: What Lies Beneath The Surface Of The Waters with Mandy Greenlee

In this video we explore the water skill of being able to receive and reveal our vulnerability.   We will look at the qualities of our openness, tenderness, and ability to receive one another. Water is the lived truth of interconnectedness.  We will practice directly feeling our emotions and allowing them to flow freely without inhibition.

 

Skills Lab: What Lies Beneath The Surface Of The Waters with Mandy Greenlee Audio

LESSON VIDEOS

Video 1 - Skills Lab: What Lies Beneath The Surface Of The Waters with Mandy Greenlee

In this video we explore the water skill of being able to receive and reveal our vulnerability.   We will look at the qualities of our openness, tenderness, and ability to receive one another. Water is the lived truth of interconnectedness.  We will practice directly feeling our emotions and allowing them to flow freely without inhibition.

 

Skills Lab: What Lies Beneath The Surface Of The Waters with Mandy Greenlee Audio

 

 

LESSON CONTENT

How feeling our feeling allows us to connect to water’s wisdom qualities

Water is not only our true nature’s awakened expression of compassion, it is the very essence of our openness, tenderness, and ability to receive one another. Water is the lived truth of interconnectedness.

 

“While one expression of water is transmitting warmth and compassion, the other side of water is our ability to reveal our vulnerability and reveal our tenderness."

 

We can notice a strong correlation between our ability to be this quality - warm, connected, emotional, and intimate, our ability to feel our own emotions, and our ability to be vulnerable with others.

 

While one expression of water is transmitting warmth and compassion, the other side of water is our ability to reveal our vulnerability and reveal our tenderness. It’s important to remember when we were emotional as children, if someone didn't respond in the way we needed, it trained us and conditioned us into resignation and numbness. This can make it hard to drop and soften and open now as adults, when we've been trained that our emotional self isn't really safe to feel, express, or reveal.

 

As we practice directly feeling our emotions and allowing them to flow freely without inhibition, we have to remember that everyone is at a different place in their capacity to do this. We may partner with someone in a mini who doesn’t have a lot of capacity to feel or express their emotions.

 

If your partner is someone who can't do that very easily, it is very likely that you are working with a person who, as a child, likely experienced being in distress without a caregiver being present with them, or without a caregiver showing up fast enough or responding adequately.

 

So, when someone can't feel themselves or feel their emotions easily, they have gotten an early attachment injury. What we want to do in this case, is to be even kinder and more patient. We can allow ourselves to empathize with the child part that was not responded or attuned to, and to connect to the pain they may currently have of not of being able to feel themselves.

 

 

Being with what’s beneath the surface of the water with Mandy Greenlee.

 

RUMI - THE GUEST HOUSE
“This human being is a guest house, every morning a new arrival, a joy, a depression, a meanness. Some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all. Even if they're a crowd of sorrows who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably.

He or she may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond."

 

We can connect with the innate wisdom of our emotions as they are our navigation system throughout life and as Rumi would say ‘have been sent as a guide from beyond.’  Even though our emotions can feel uncomfortable and destructive in some way, we can connect with that hope and even excitement about what they are clearing room for.   We can hold a spirit of acceptance and welcoming to whatever shows up.

 

The gift of water is how to actually discover what's beneath the surface and what are the deeper vulnerable emotions that only reveal themselves when we actually are willing to acknowledge, to meet, to be with them.  "Oh, so you're here now?...sadness, judgment,  shame, or anger”

 

What is it to really meet those places?

 

 

The gift of letting go

 

“We are watery beings.  There’s this fluidity and fluency of the emotional body that can develop if we don’t interfere.  Our bodies are made up primarily of fluids. Our nervous systems are wired to move through emotions fluidly so even the ones that feel super intense or hard, that we don't want to be here, just remember our natural intelligence to move through them fluidly."

 

If you feel water flowing down a river, you’ll experience that one of the gifts of Water is letting go of agenda.   Water in a certain way doesn't have discernment, it is unconditional.  It’s not saying ‘Oh, I'm going to move over this rock, but I'm going to jump and not touch that rock.’  It literally penetrates everything that it's flowing over and around and through. Nothing is left behind, and there's something so beautiful about that.   The nature of water meets and meets and meets and meets.

 

The nature of water is not "I'm going to judge this" or "I don't want to be with this". It's just the very elemental, alchemical nature of this element is just to be with it all. 

 

Imagine when there's a place of holding or a place that feels hard to understand the practice is to just meet it with this continual loving presence and really catching if another part shows up with an agenda like, "Well, if I meet this, then it's going to change, and then I'm going to get to the goods and the gems are going to appear." Recognize that in the meeting, the meeting itself is the gem.   

 

We can notice if something comes up, do we have a part that shows up immediately saying, "Oh, cool, I'm willing to be with this, because I know it's going to get me somewhere." 

 

The emotion that's ‘sweeping the house wildly,’ it’s not sweeping to clear, it's the act of sweeping that has its own intelligence, its own wisdom. If you think of it from a parts level, it was put in place for a really good reason.  Maybe that one that is sweeping furiously, its intelligence knows that through fury it got something when it was a child and got its needs met. 

 

There's this real refined place in the Water quality of catching if any part is showing up with agenda and coming back to the realization that as Water, ‘I'm this infinite source of loving presence that can absolutely be with whatever arises.’ and really hold that part vs seeing the parts as inconvenient and as ‘unwanted guests.’

 

We live in a culture that's so fascinated with outcome and so driven to have results.  There is a beautiful quality in that, and there can be a distortion in that.   

 

 

The emotional fluency in our childhood development

During our childhood development as baby’s in the early oral phase the primary focus is on meeting needs to not be upset anymore.  In the toddler phase you develop a range of emotion where you might be smiling and laughing one minute and then all of a sudden be sad and start crying for a moment and then the next moment joyful again.  

 

There’s this fluidity and fluency of the emotional body that can develop if we don’t interfere.  We are watery beings.  Our bodies are made up primarily of fluids.  Our nervous systems are wired to move through emotions fluidly so even the ones that feel super intense or hard, that we don't want to be here, just remember the fluency of our innate state and our natural intelligence to move through them fluidly.  

 

If the toddler part is just doing their thing and we are completely ignoring it, that's not helping. What helps is just not trying to change the emotional experience, but really not interfering and just staying with the course in loving presence.

 

As adults, the story piles on creating a hiccup with our fluency of emotion to just move through, but our natural state is welcoming whatever is here.

 

Most of us didn't have caregivers that have that level of attunement or even comfortability in their own system. So they're interfering and trying to mess with the intelligence system and the emotions move at a different pace.

 

 

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