WATER MODULE

PART III: SKILLS
LESSON 6: Attuning, Following, & Allowing

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LESSON SUMMARY

Lesson 6: Skills - Attuning Following & Allowing

In this lesson we explore how we allow the full direct experience underneath our story.  We will work with the capacity to go into the ‘primacy of experience’ instead of experiencing any story at all - diving into the immediacy of experience, and just feeling whatever there is to be felt, whether that is a sensation or an emotion.

 

LESSON VIDEOS

VIDEO 1

Video 1 - Skills Lab Attuning Following, and Allowing with Kristen Greco

In this video of a skills lab with Kristen Greco, we practice a group exercise to learn to move and modulate in responsiveness to the others we are connecting with. This is called attunement.  Water is the ability to honor and embrace whatever is, including the defense and the part that may be living in a younger view, and protecting something that is important.  You’ll learn two practices to attune, follow and allow.

 

Skills Lab Attuning Following, and Allowing with Kristen Greco Audio

LESSON VIDEOS

Video 1 - Skills Lab Attuning Following, and Allowing with Kristen Greco

In this video of a skills lab with Kristen Greco, we practice a group exercise to learn to move and modulate in responsiveness to the others we are connecting with. This is called attunement.  Water is the ability to honor and embrace whatever is, including the defense and the part that may be living in a younger view, and protecting something that is important.  You’ll learn two practices to attune, follow and allow.

 

Skills Lab Attuning Following, and Allowing with Kristen Greco Audio

 

 

LESSON CONTENT

Attunement

“What does “Water” do when it meets “rocks”? It goes around, it softens to the hardness, it receives and responds. It “moves with” instead of trying to move or alter the other. It is not forceful."

 

Responsive attunement is a quality of water that is very key. When we give a session and we bring in our emotional presence, if we feel the person pull back, or shut down, or go away, and we are in that felt sense of the experience with that person, we should be able to adjust ourselves to meet what their body or what their energy is signaling us.

So, for example, if I come to be in connection with my client and offer my warm presence and I feel a little kickback, like a little push, or I feel a little hardness come up, I need to be in my responsive nature with what is arising in the other person.

What does “Water” do when it meets “rocks”? It goes around, it softens to the hardness, it receives and responds. It “moves with” instead of trying to move or alter the other. It is not forceful.

So, if I'm offering from the warmth of Water, even if what I'm offering is love, if their system is afraid of love, then I can adjust and do it just right for them. So, I can literally move and modulate my system in responsiveness to the system that I'm connecting with. This is attunement.

So, even though Water is about the interconnectedness that always is, if their system is not recognizing that, if their part is like, “hell no, I'm not going to be in that connection!” I can acknowledge the perfection and the intelligence of that part. I can find where I need to adjust to honor their needs of the moment. Water is the ability to honor and embrace whatever is, including the defense and the part that may be living in a younger view, protecting something that is important to them. We must remember that though at some point (with the introduction of Tree) we may introduce them to what is out of their part’s awareness, we honor there is an intrinsic intelligence and goodness in what the part is wanting to protect, and we honor it.

If we don’t honor a client’s natural pacing and all that needs to happen before their protector would naturally let go, we may cause harm or increase someone’s need to protect. Water cultivates our ability to work with the client’s own rhythm and honors their system’s intrinsic intelligence.

 

 

Attunement when Disconnecting from Client

In scientific studies of attachment it has been shown that a baby doesn't want mama to be the person who takes the attention away first. If the baby starts to feel like mom is going to take her attention away, the baby will turn their own head first, in order to control the moment that that connection goes away. The pain of disconnection, especially when not prepared for, is so great, that the baby turns first in order to feel in control of that moment of disconnection. It's important for us to be aware of the power of this practice and honor the deep needs within us that it can access, as we attune to another person’s system.

The process of connecting with Water can be a very deep and opening experience. It’s very important to have attunement as we are not just connecting during a session, but also in the moment when we are coming out of the connection at the end of a session. If we don’t attune here it may feel like we are jumping out of connection and it may be jarring or disruptive to the person’s sense of safety.

 

 

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REFLECTION QUESTION

Lesson Objectives

Water Badges:

You've earned out of 3 Water Badges

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[simple_tooltip content='Earning the Water APPRENTICE Badge means you have submitted all 18 of the meditations and practices in the water module.'][/simple_tooltip]
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  APPRENTICE

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